This Simple Trick Put Me On Track For My Dream Life

One of the most profound life hacks I’ve discovered in recent years is brain building. It completely changed the way I engage with educational content. Instead of just consuming it, I now try to actively remember it, summarise it for myself, and reflect on why it’s meaningful to me.

This morning, I found myself listening to Dr. Daniel Amen again—a well-known figure in the world of psychiatry and something of a legend on the internet. I’ve listened to his material many times before, but sometimes you need to hear things more than once—especially the seemingly simple truths.

One thing he said struck me particularly hard. I know I have ADHD tendencies, so when he started talking about the importance of clarifying your goals and values—and regularly reflecting on them—I was all ears. (And yes, if you haven’t realised it yet, I’m using this newsletter as a way to repeat and internalise what I’ve learned today.)

He calls it The One Page Miracle. He does it with all his ADHD patients: You write down everything you want in life—your relationships, your work or business, your finances, your health, your spirituality. Whatever truly matters to you, put it on one page.

Then you take that list and ask yourself: How are my behaviours aligning with this future version of myself? Simple, right? If you want to run a marathon, you start training. But when it comes to our bigger life goals, we often procrastinate or even sabotage ourselves—and we always find excuses not to follow through.

Take relationships, for example. If you want a loving relationship but you’re either unhappy in your current one or still single, ask yourself: How has my behaviour sabotaged past relationships? How might it be undermining my current ones—whether romantic, familial, or social? And most importantly, how does that behaviour affect the relationship with myself?

In my own case, my core wound is neglect. I learned to isolate myself and deal with emotions alone, which only deepened my sense of loneliness. That pattern still shows up in my relationships today. When that old wound gets triggered, I tend to withdraw. I detach, which leads to even more loneliness—and in turn, more anxiety.

So if you feel lonely, and connection is a core need of yours, start by reconnecting with yourself. Check in. Ask what you need. Try to meet those needs. When you show up for yourself and build a loving relationship with your own inner world, you naturally become the kind of person who can also sustain a healthy partnership with someone else.

Of course, this work isn’t easy. You’re not just uncovering subconscious wounds and patterns—you’re also trying to shift them, step by step, without immediate proof that it’s working. That’s why the key is to become outcome-agnostic and process-oriented.

Instead of measuring progress by external milestones or the absence of symptoms, start paying attention to how you respond to subtle inner cues. That is where change happens. If you want to be a marathon runner: lace em up. Every day.

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